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Helping Your Veteran Parent Access Their VA Benefits: A Complete Guide

This Veterans Day, make sure your parent gets the support and care they've earned

November 5, 2024

As we approach Veterans Day 2024, it's the perfect time to explore the benefits available to aging veterans and learn how to help access these valuable resources. If you're supporting a parent who served, navigating Veterans Affairs (VA) benefits can feel overwhelming – but understanding these benefits is crucial for ensuring your loved one receives the care and support they have earned and deserve.

Understanding VA Healthcare Benefits

The most important thing to know is that VA healthcare benefits can be used alongside Medicare, private insurance, or other coverage. Your parent may qualify for VA healthcare in one of three ways:

  1. Service-Connected Injuries or Conditions

    Including physical injuries or conditions that developed because of military service

  2. Special Circumstances

    Such as Purple Heart recipients, Medal of Honor recipients, or former POWs

  3. Income-Based Qualification

    For veterans with income below certain thresholds

Key Healthcare Services Available

  • Primary and specialty medical care

  • Mental health services

  • Prescription medications

  • Medical equipment and supplies

  • Home health services

  • Nursing home care when needed

  • Support services for family members helping to coordinate care

The Aid & Attendance Benefit: A Critical Resource

One of the most valuable but often overlooked benefits is the Aid & Attendance pension benefit. This provides monthly payments to help cover the cost of assistance with daily activities. For 2024, qualified veterans can receive:

  • Up to $2,229 for a veteran

  • Up to $1,432 for a surviving spouse

  • Up to $2,642 for a married veteran

  • Up to $1,757 for a veteran with a sick spouse

To qualify, your parent needs to:

  • Have served at least 90 days of active duty, with one day during wartime

  • Need help with daily tasks like bathing, dressing, or eating

  • Meet certain income and asset limits

Getting Started: Essential Documents

Before applying for any VA benefits, make sure you gather these key documents.

💡Pro Tip: Use Tender's Vault to securely store digital copies of all these important documents for easy access when needed.

Military Service Records

  • DD-214 (discharge papers)

  • Service medical records

  • Any awards or commendations

Current Medical Information

  • List of current medications

  • Recent medical records

  • Documentation of any service-connected conditions

Financial Information

  • Recent tax returns

  • Bank statements

  • Documentation of medical expenses

Working with Veterans Service Organizations

Don't try to navigate this alone! Veterans Service Organizations (VSOs) provide free help with:

  • Understanding available benefits

  • Gathering required documentation

  • Filing claims and applications

  • Appealing denied claims

Some respected VSOs include:

Additional Resources

  • VA Caregiver Support Program: Provides training, resources, and, in some cases, financial support for family caregivers

  • Veterans Crisis Line: 24/7 support at 988 (press 1)

  • VA Benefits Hotline: 1-800-827-1000

  • Tender Community: Connect with other families supporting veteran parents on the app

  • AARP Veterans Resources

Using Tender to Stay Organized

Tender can help you manage your parent's VA benefits by:

  1. Storing important documents in the secure Vault

  2. Setting reminders for important deadlines and appointments

  3. Keeping track of medication schedules

  4. Coordinating care with siblings and other family members

  5. Accessing expert guidance through TenderAI

Take Your First Steps

  1. Gather Documentation: Use this guide to collect the necessary paperwork

  2. Connect with a VSO: Find a local office

  3. Schedule a VA Health Evaluation: Even if your parent has other insurance

  4. Explore Aid & Attendance: If your parent needs help with daily activities

  5. Store Everything in ✨Tender✨: Keep all documents and information organized in one secure place!

Remember, you're not alone in this journey. The Tender community includes many supporting aging parents who are veterans. We're here to help you navigate these complex systems while ensuring your loved one receives the care and benefits they've earned through their service.


Looking to connect with other families supporting veteran parents? Join the conversation in the Tender community section of the app.

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